Let’s get married and not tell anybody…

A friend sends photos and emails today of the holiday he and his wife took in Arizona. They’re an interesting pair. They’ve been together since early on in college back in 1990 or so.

He wasn’t the “marrying” type — that’s too antiquated. And I think he covinced her of the same … for a long, long time. But The System, with a capital ‘S’, is heavily stacked in favor of those who get married — you know, health insurance, taxes, that sort of thing. So finally after more than 10 years together, they got married on November 30, 2001. Great! Wonderful! Of course all of their friends are happy for them.

Now here’s the twist. It took them a year to get around to telling people about it. A year later, in November 2002, they actually sent out cards announcing the wedding. The fact that they live in California, far away from family and old friends makes that easier. But to keep it secret for a year! I spoke with him several times on the phone over the course of that year, but he never hinted or let on that something was up.

I’ve never heard of someone being so casual about getting married. Apparently they just went down to the courthouse and signed the papers. And that was that. That’s not unusual, but to keep it a secret… that’s funny.

Well, hopefully they’re happy. Seems like they’ve made a good pair over the years. Certainly, his relationship is one of the most long-lived among my circle of friends: 13 years together by the age of 31 is impressive.